GIRL, STOP APOLOGIZING - by Rachel Hollis

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Published: March 2019 - Harper Collins.
Genres: Nonfiction / self help.  
Pages: 240.
Triggers/Content Advisory: N.A.
Format: Paperback.
Source: Thank you so much to Jonathan Ball SA for sending me this book in exchange for an honest review. I voluntarily read & reviewed this copy. All thoughts are my own.

Rachel Hollis has seen it too often: women not living into their full potential. They feel a tugging on their hearts for something more, but they’re afraid of embarrassment, of falling short of perfection, of not being enough.

In Girl, Stop Apologizing, #1 New York Times bestselling author and founder of a multimillion-dollar media company, Rachel Hollis sounds a wake-up call. She knows that many women have been taught to define themselves in light of other people—whether as wife, mother, daughter, or employee—instead of learning how to own who they are and what they want. With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams, Hollis identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviors to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself.



I don't read much non-fiction (specifically in the self-help sub-genre) but I enjoyed Hollis' Girl, Wash Your Face, so I thought I'd try this book, too.


Rachel Hollis writes without pretence. The book reads like she's there beside you, cheering you on, and spilling her raw, applicable expertise. She tells it like it is, and she walks the talk. It's effortlessly easy to read, too. Her writing isn't groundbreaking, but every sentence comes from the heart and her personality shines through. I was constantly entertained.

It's also an inspiring, empowering, and motivating book. It's a practical and applicable guide, with many solid and essential messages for women. I love some of the things Hollis says, and I agree with her in many cases. I applaud her incentive for writing this book and I'm encouraged by her words of wisdom and advice. For any woman who's felt less than, who's been ashamed of her passions and dreams, who's put herself down, who's made excuses for not pursing her own desires, Hollis tells her to "stop apologising!" and it's easy to get swept up in her call for action. Inspiring? Sure. You'll probably get fired up, and obviously there's nothing wrong with that.


But personally, I don't agree with everything Hollis says. On the surface, yes, I am motivated and empowered by her words, but there is a line. From a Christian viewpoint, I take everything she says with a generous heap of salt. Her message borders on egotistic. I also think she romanticises hardship, and looking at her life and where she's come from and where she's going, it's very easy for her to tell women to choose positivity and go after what they want, but the reality is not everyone has the money or resources to just pick themselves up and move on. And for single mothers struggling to put food on the table? For women in abusive relationships? It is not as simple or possible to ignore other factors and just take responsibility for everything in your life; you don't always get to choose the right mindset, or to simply make time for yourself and your dreams, as Hollis urges women to do. It's overly idealistic to assume that most women have that luxury.
In a nutshell: Rachel Hollis speaks a lot of truth, but I don't feel comfortable with many of her philosophies.




Girl, Stop Apologizing is a passionate, engaging, and practical guide to following and achieving your dreams. It's a feel-good read. 

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